As a Phi, you have a good sense of yourself and your sexuality. You know how to turn on the sex appeal when it suits your needs, and have a fair amount of confidence when it comes to your sexual performance.

As an E you tend to focus more on an emotional connection to your partner during sex.

As a T you tend to be an affectionate lover — using touch to enhance the experience.

As a D you tend to be more experimental and willing to try new things when it comes to sex.

As an N you tend to communicate with body language, not words, during sex.

As for your interest in sex, your libido score is 8 on a scale of 1-10.

I have to say I disagree with this... I may be an "8" occasionally, but sex is definitely not my main concern in a relationship... hot-n-heavy at times, short term... but generally a couple times a month and I'm good. Unless of course the communication and incimacy are high, then who knows!  I definitely have to admit, the more connected and secure with someone, the more likely it is to radiate positively throughout all aspects of the relationahip.  The less connected I feel, or the more disconnected or distant I feel, it will also radiate negatively throughout all aspects of the relationship.

Because you aren't an extremist, you tend not to feel especially negative or positive about your sexuality unless prompted by an extreme circumstance. In other words, a situation that is especially positive or a situation that is uncomfortably negative may cause you to doubt yourself of lose some sexual confidence. But ultimately, you're even-keeled when it comes to sex and your sexual relationships.

On the whole, your centeredness makes you a fair judge of others when it comes to sex. More specifically, because you are someone who maintains a middle-of-the-road perspective about most things in life, you are less likely to judge — harshly or otherwise — the sexuality or morality of others. People with your degree of flexibility have greater potential for change, and an openness to learn. That strength plays largely into your sexual persona.

Your Sex Appeal
You are a lucky sort, with the gift of controlling how others perceive your sexuality. You can turn it up to 12; you can also keep a lot of your sexual aura under wraps, and you oftentimes choose to do exactly that, through your dress, conversation, and general level of sexual suggestiveness. You aren't out to please others so much as maintain your integrity. For you, that means not allowing yourself to be obviously sexy. You're a good judge of when, where, and how often people take notice of your sexiness. You charm who you want to charm.

Your Internal Sexual Confidence
You are very aware of your strengths as a sexual partner. You probably aren't afraid to ask for exactly what you want, and you probably don't hesitate to try new things that you believe will satisfy your partner. Since you are relatively free from the anxiety and worry that can sometimes interfere with an amazing sexual experience, you are more likely than most to explore what you might like, and just as importantly, what your partner might like. With your degree of self-assurance, you make a strong, exciting lover, one greatly appreciated by those you choose to share yourself with.

Your Sexual Awareness
You've thoroughly explored those things that make you tingle with pleasure, and you probably aren't afraid to find out more. You're truly in tune with your sexual side, and chances are you aren't afraid of your body or, frankly, much else in life. Whether you are out there exploring new opportunities, or living contentedly knowing that you've already mastered what gets your motor running, you are far more aware of your own needs and desires than most people. And more than most people, you know just how to satisfy those needs and desires.
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Your Emotional/Physical Balance
You're an E+. You have a strong emotional orientation when it comes to sex. This means that while the physical aspects of sex are important to you, you are primarily focused on connecting with your partner on a deeper, more thoughtful level. You aren't likely to feel great about sex with people with whom you're not particularly close as for you, sex is far from a casual affair. Even if you have a casual sexual affair or a one-night stand, it is unlikely that you completely divorce yourself from the feelings that well up within you. Sex and the emotional intimacy simply go hand-in-hand for you, which is why you probably gravitate toward sex in the context of committed relationships.

Your Desire for Emotional Connection During Sex
Sex has a very emotional impact on you. Even though its effect can vary significantly depending on who you're with, connecting with someone on an emotional level is an essential element of sex for you. Of course you can live without an emotional connection and you can have sex without an emotional connection, but if you do, you will probably feel there is something missing.

The connection you feel between sex and your emotional connection to your lover works the other way as well. Sex has a powerful influence on your perspectives beyond the act itself. Sex for you is a significant act, not just a physical release. You tend to sleep with people you want in your life, and when you do have sex, you prefer it to be meaningful on numerous levels.

Your Drive Towards the Physical High of Sex
You love sex as much as the next person, but it's the passion that gets you going more than the physical high of the act, or the promise of orgasm. While you find sex satisfying, it doesn't always end with you feeling intoxicated or stupefied by the experience. In fact, sex can sometimes be a bit physically under whelming for you, and you might find yourself at odds with a sexual partner who is more driven by the physicality of the act than you are. Your level of physical drive during sex is natural. You may find some positions or circumstances heighten the physical impact and thrill of sex for you. And because of that, you might want to stress the importance of foreplay to your sexual partners. It's likely that foreplay will help you get closer to a highly erotic experience.
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Your Touch/Look Balance
You're a T+. You are a very affectionate lover. When it comes to the balance of looking versus touching, you are nearly all touch. You use your hands to express how you feel, and even if there's not a really strong connection between you and your partner emotionally, you still strongly prefer physical affection and consider it the most integral part of the sexual experience.

Your Tendency to be Affectionate During Sex
Physical caressing makes you swoon, and you often view a warm, soft touch as more erotic than any sexual gesture. It's because you are highly touch-oriented. Lucky you. You are able to reap the benefits of having high skin sensitivity without being sensitive to the extent that frequent physical connections can overwhelm you. Your favorite sensory experience? Kissing. For you, it's a big part of the sexual experience and something you love doing with your partner nearly as much as having sex itself. Those little things really get you going.

Your Interest in Looking At Your Sexual Partner
There's no doubt. You see the beauty in the human form. It's there for you and you notice the physical characteristics of your sexual partner's body. You enjoy watching them even if it means being at a distance. But then you're probably quick to get close and be a part of the action, too. It also depends on how emotionally connected you are to this person, too. If you care deeply about the person, you might be more inclined to spend more time admiring them, watching them, appreciating their physical look and what they're doing with their body. Everyone is different. The important thing is that you find someone compatible with whom you can really get into what you enjoy doing.

Your Daring/Modest Balance
You're a D+. You are willing to try anything, and you have a strong sense of adventure when it comes to romping around in the sack, or wherever it happens to be that you do your wild thing. You might even have shocked a few of your sexual partners in the past — although knowing you, you're less likely to worry about that sort of thing and more likely to feel proud of your avant-garde approach to sex. Every once in a while, you may experience a twinge of doubt over whether or not your sexual partner will think you're too willing to go to the edge in order to obtain a sexual high. Just keep reminding yourself that everyone is different, and sex is never about being right or wrong. It's about mutual gratification and satisfaction. As long as you're in line with those objectives, you're on the right track and have nothing to question.

Your Openness to be Daring During Sex
You're a little daredevil when it comes to sex. You are very willing to take risks, both emotionally and physically, while having the good sense not to gamble with your health. Indeed, unsafe sex is a no-no in your book. That isn't to say that you need unconventional sex in order to really enjoy the act; in fact, you aren't averse to routine lovemaking now and again. Still, you aren't apt to consider a lot of experimentation as strange or unacceptable. You're happy to initiate new moves. You're also happy when your sexual partners get adventurous. You've experienced the pleasures that can be derived by getting imaginative.

Your Level of Modesty
You are happily uninhibited about your sexuality, and you seldom shy away from expressing your sexual interests, desires, or history from those who want to hear you tell about these things. For you, sex is a beautiful, fun, natural part of being human, and you don't have time for people who judge immodesty as crude. If they misunderstand your openness, so be it. You don't judge others and you don't expect to be judged. In your view, being uninhibited is the healthiest, happiest way to go through life.
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Your Verbal/Non-verbal Balance
You're a N. When it comes to sex, you're much more likely to communicate non-verbally than you are to do it verbally. This means that if you have a highly verbal sexual partner, there may be some tension about how to best connect so that you know what one another wants. This is to be expected. Because everyone is different when it comes to sex and how they communicate, the best strategy is to find out as much as you can about the way your partner does things. If your partner is verbal, take the time to learn his or language, and ask him or her to learn how to communicate with you non-verbally. Certainly, learning to be more verbal won't be too challenging for you as you have verbal tendencies, too. (It just so happens that, unless circumstances arise in which verbal communication works better, you are strongly inclined to stick to body language and other non-verbal cues to relate your feelings.)

Your Verbal Communication Tendencies During Sex
Chances are that you're generally a verbally gifted individual. Because it's perfectly natural for you to articulate your thoughts effectively, why should it be any different when you're being sexual with someone? For you, there are no significant blockades preventing you from expressing yourself in as clear a way possible during sex. One word of advice, though. Great articulation is a talent, indeed, but not everything you say during sex may be beneficial to your partner. Remember bringing up those concerns about your dry-cleaning? It might have seemed innocuous enough at the time, but talking about something unrelated to sex during the act can dampen the intensity of the encounter. Perhaps this is the unconscious (or conscious) desired effect. Perhaps, too, you sometimes veer off course owing to habit or natural inclination.

Either way, being verbally oriented puts you ahead the game. You just want to choose your material more carefully, so that when you are communicating something about sex that your partner wouldn't want to miss, they'll be tuned in. In other words, during sex, use those great verbal skills to heighten yours and your partner's satisfaction, and save the small talk for later.

The Non-verbal Communication You Use During Sex
You tend to use non-verbal communication and verbal communication in equal parts when it comes to sex. Sometimes you spell out what you want, like, and intend to do with words; other times, you let your body do the talking. It's a great balance, and in fact most people know instinctively how to employ some non-verbal communication during sex, even if it isn't their normal tendency to be demonstrative in this way. Further, because you know how to express yourself without words, you're open and capable of reading others' non-verbal communications.

One thing to note: there is more ambiguity in non-verbal communication than in verbal communication, even when your sexual partner happens to be a strong non-verbal communicator. Not surprisingly, there's just more room for fuzziness when one is dealing in the subtle art of body language. While it might seem perfectly obvious to you that what you're communicating is loud and clear, the message might not be getting received that way. Much of non-verbal communication can be interpreted in different ways depending on the person. To be on the safe side, you might want to check in verbally now and again to ensure that your non-verbal exchanges with your partner are being understood as they are meant.
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Your Libido
You're an 8. You've got a healthy, strong libido. You aren't apologetic about thinking about it lots, having it more often, and enjoying longer lovemaking sessions than the next guy, either. You know well that your libido is a central part of your physical life, and your sexual interest is healthy and robust because of that acknowledgment.

Your Libido and Sexual Relationships
Having a strong libido can make life fun-filled. It can also sometimes find you attracted to people you may wish you didn't find attractive, and keep your casual-sex radar up and running more hours of the day than you realize. Simply, whether you are actively searching out sex or not, the inclination pops up not infrequently.

Further, having a strong libido means that oftentimes spending time with someone you're attracted to will turn sexual at some point (assuming that this person is interested and amenable). There is nothing wrong with this, of course. You just happen to have a certain sexual openness that makes you perk up around people to whom you're attracted.

Increasing Your Sexual Enjoyment
You are largely motivated by the emotional elements of your sexual experiences. At the same time, you have a strong libido that heightens your love of sex generally. It's a win-win situation for you. You think about sex, look forward to it, and greatly enjoy engaging in it, and by attending to your emotional needs and really focusing on how to satisfy them during sex, you really maximize your enjoyment of it.

Obviously, the more connected you are to your partner, the better sex will be for you. Conversely, if you have a weak connection with your sexual partner, or if you use sex as a means of connecting to someone with whom you aren't already feeling in sync, then you're likely to feel like something is missing, even afterward. It's why, when possible, you should try to establish clear and solid connections with your partners before having sex. Casual partners aren't likely to satisfy your emotional needs, and you'll avoid any feelings of dissatisfaction (with them or yourself) if you stick to having sex with people with whom you feel some emotional connection.

Your Ideal Sexual Partner
People vary considerably in the way they communicate sexually, and your language is filled with non-verbal ways of telling your sexual partner whatever it is that you want to communicate. Because non-verbal communication can be fuzzier than verbal, it is critical for you to either find a sexual partner who can pick up your sexual vibes and other ways of communicating, or else to train your partner to read those non-verbal cues. (It is easy to misread them, so as painful as it may be if you have a verbal sexual partner and you don't like to talk about sex with them, it is important that you explain as much as you can about what certain things may mean so that your partner does not misinterpret you.) To help further, consider your past sexual experiences and try remembering what has worked and what hasn't. When you've been more in tune with one another on a non-verbal level, has it been more comfortable? Have you been more satisfied? Also, make sure that your partner likes affection or at least is okay with it and is willing to deliver it to you during sex. Not grudgingly so, either. You want to make sure that your needs are satisfied and that your sexual language (touching and non-verbal) is understood by your partner.

How Others See You Sexually
When it comes to how others perceive you sexually, most people stick to what they can observe directly: how sexy you appear. You happen to be somewhat of a mystery to observers because, you can be both alluring and aloof seeming, leaving many to wonder what you're like when it comes to sex. They may strongly suspect there is a saucy, wild underside to you, but you're coy about showing it — even while you know it drives them to distraction.

Indeed, you like leaving question marks in your path. You don't mind keeping some people in the dark about sections of your life, or guessing at what yours might be, based on your appearance alone. As far as you're concerned, most strangers can guess about you until the cows come home. And you know that they are, indeed, guessing.

Your Sexual Future
Soon, you will find yourself in more optimal sexual scenarios. All you need is for your emotional and physical intensity to come together in a new way, allowing you to experience a kind of exhilaration you haven't known before. Indeed, once the two distinct sides of your sexuality — physical desire and emotional connectedness — get better synchronized, you are sure to experience some eye-opening moments. As long as you stay true to yourself and your sexual partner the best sexual relationship of your life is in your grasp. Now that you know your sexual personality, there's nothing in your way.
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Sex. You see it everywhere you go. From sex ed in high schools, to celebrated media sexperts, to advertisements for perfume, HBO's Sex and the City and the little medical wonder known as Viagra, sex is on the mind! Nothing perhaps, is more universal. No matter how personal the topic may be to you, the ever-present — and sometimes overly-explicit — idea of sex is every direction we turn. But why?

As long as there has been life, there has been the drive for sex. And in fact for some, the question, "which came first, sex or life?" isn't an obvious answer.

History of sex
In the beginning, the drive for sex did not always come from pure desire. In many cultures dating back to the Ancients, one's social standing and position in life predetermined with whom and if, you were to have sex. In ancient Athens, men viewed women as either a breeder or worker. And these folks weren't shy about their sexualities, either. Art and antiques from classical times show us that Greeks openly celebrated the image of the aroused penis.

It was Roman physician Galen who concluded that both the females and males required sexual pleasure, excitement, and climatic orgasm in order to generate the heat that produced new life. Thank goodness for scientific advances. What followed, however, was the Victorian view that a passionless wife or mother was all you needed for reproduction. Freud and those who studied his work were integral in bridging the rigid Victorian model of sexuality to a more social model. Sex was absolutely rooted in nature, in biology, but how we used it in our lives was more conditioned by our social and cultural environment.

Then, in the 1960s, we saw yet another revolution. No longer was sex a private affair between two people. The drive for sex is so alluring, is so undeniably powerful, people realized they could harness its message. Sexuality became commercial. It emerged politically as an axis for many social movements promoting the acceptance of women's reproductive choices and sexual expression, as well as the relaxation of censorship laws.

How sex creeps into our lives
Today we can see sex all around us — housed in museums, prostituted legally on the streets of Vegas, explained through therapeutic radio shows, and broadcasted as streaming media on the Internet.

Who hasn't heard of Dr. Ruth, America's Leading Sex Therapist? With her nationally and internationally syndicated radio and TV programs, "Sexually Speaking" and "The Dr. Ruth Show," she has certainly made her modern views known. She is a pioneer in spreading what she labeled "sexual literacy." And what about all the other talk shows? From Oprah to Howard Stearn, sex is now an acceptable subject to talk about not only openly, but on the air.

How sexuality is usually measured and how those measurements are typically used
The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction is a renowned institution that can be traced back to 1938. In preparing for a new women's course about marriage and its contemplation at Indiana University, zoologist Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey discovered that scientific data on human sexual behavior was sparse. He began collecting his own data, eventually resulting in more than 18,000 sexual histories based on intimate, face-to-face interviews. His research covers sex in a fairly comprehensive manner, looking at issues surrounding erogenous zones, bisexuality, extramarital sex, fantasy, foreplay, homosexuality, masturbation, nudity, peak performance/maximum sexual activity, oral sex, orgasm, premarital sex, sex with prostitutes, and even sadomasochism.

Many organizations exist today that cater to modern sexuality issues of abuse, dysfunction, therapy, public health, social problems, and more. The research at educational institutions like The Kinsey Institute help to provide credible background information and research to progress in today's society.

Emode's Sexual Personality Test
There's plenty of evidence linking sex to biology and sex to certain cultural norms. But have you ever taken a test that took all of this into account to bring you a useful way to discuss sex and how it relates specifically to you? Emode's Sexual Personality Test assesses your sexual behavior on 7 different scales. It will help give you a better understanding of your sexual personality — a part of you that's just as important as your personality as you go through life. Knowing more about your sexual persona will make you happier, and healthier. This test will show you your sexual strengths and will offer advice for making them even stronger. Join the millions of Emode members who have already benefited from this. [top]